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the art of fist fucking

Fist fucking is the insertion of a hand into a rectum.  It is a unique experience. Muscles in our rectum are designed to hold body wastes in the lower intestine with myriad sensitivities.  Those muscles have to be trained to relax.  The beauty of being fisted is achieving a state of total relaxation because when those muscles relax the whole body relaxes. There is no comparable feeling. For some gay men it’s fun; for some it’s spiritual.

Some myths about fist fucking.

  1. It’s incredibly painful.  For most of us the first time a hand goes in our butt it hurts like Hell.  For me the second time it hurt but not quite as much.  It was only the third time I relaxed enough to enjoy it.
  2. Tops are more Masculine.  Bullshit!  Masculinity has nothing to do with it.  A great top is sure of himself, and it doesn’t matter that he loves opera or does hair.  The five star tops I know are also great bottoms.  Having experience as a bottom teaches you a lot about how to give pleasure to your partner as a top.
  3. Fist Fucking is a form of S&M.  Not true.  Fist fuckers are a breed of men who indulge in pleasure.  Some as bottoms and some as tops.  Many are both. Men do not engage in fist fucking to inflict physical or mental pain. They are not working out daddy issues.  Both tops and bottoms do it for pleasure.

What it Takes to be A Good Top

  1. Honor your partner.  Fist fucking is a collaborative effort.  You should want your partner to have at least as much fun as you.
  2. Be honest.  Let your partner know anything he should know about your body before you play like your HIV status. If you have a partner at home be honest about that, too.  A great fist fucking experience should be as clean of emotional issues as possible. You can exchange that information in instant messages, a phone call, whatever. When you know more about your partner than his name, your play will flow.
  3. Tease his butt. Do not just stick your hand in. Your job as top is to encourage the bottom to relax.  Listen to his body and let your hand sense his muscles.   The bottom’s pleasure should be foremost in your mind.
  4. Go slow.  We all get excited and want to get as much pleasure as quickly as possible.  Going slow is a great luxury and huge pleasure. That doesn’t mean just sticking your hand in a guy’s butt and leaving it there. Small movements with your fingers and gentle turns of your wrist will keep the electricity going in your partner’s butt.  If he wants more action, he’ll let you know with words or his butt.
  5. Be polite.  Always thank your bottom. Even if it wasn’t as much fun as you hoped for thank him.  If he was stupendous thank him and ask when you can see him again.

What it Takes to be A Good Bottom

  1. Be prepared.  Have a clean butt.  A clean mouth is also nice.  So is a clear mind.  Fist Fucking is not therapy.  If you’re going to talk, talk dirty.
  2. Expect to have fun.  Your attitude will affect everything that happens on your date.  Be upbeat.  If something horrible is going on in your life, get it out quickly and leave it there.  Don’t let it get in the way of sex.  When sex is great you’re in Heaven. When it doesn’t work out, don’t start blaming. Shit happens.
  3. Don’t take it too seriously.   Fist Fucking is fun.
  4. Communicate with your top.  Let him know what’s going on for you.  You  do that with your body and the sounds you make.  The highest compliments I’ve received as a bottom are men saying they loved my being so responsive.  A bottom who just lies there aint gonna get a lot more dates.
  5. Take both of your responsibilities seriously.  First, enjoy yourself, and second, make sure the top is having as much fun.
  6. Be Polite. Always thank your top.  Even if it wasn’t as much fun as you hoped for thank him.  If he was phenomenal thank him and ask when you can see him again.

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2 Responses to the art of fist fucking

  1. Stevie November 2, 2010 at 8:30 pm #

    Very nice, Chuck. When are you going to write some more on your front page? I am so sorry I missed your recent reading. I tried to make it but just couldn’t get out that evening.

    Steve

  2. david nicholls March 16, 2012 at 11:45 pm #

    Thank you so much Sir for your report, vert informative and now I think I would relax more at my next attempt at being fisted. I allways worrie I am not compleatly clean, I do doush be for but some time there is still soil left in and its so embarresing and not nice for thr fister, I am normally very tight and would so much like to learn how to loosen and widen my sphinter. but worrie about how much presure to use. any way thank you for your report. hugs. david

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